Summary: In today’s epsiode we’re mentioning how to eliminate three most toxic habits so you can <a href="http://couplemoney.com/family-and-finances/how-to-bring-up-the-money-talk/">cut down on money fights </a>and actually build some wealth.<br> [smart_track_player url=”http://media.blubrry.com/couplemoney/traffic.libsyn.com/couplemoney/QA_Session_6_3_Toxic_Habits_to_Stop_with_Money_Talks.mp3″ ]<br> <br> * Subscribe on iTunes: Simply <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/couple-money-podcast-build/id924656111">click on this link</a> and you’ll be taken to Couple Money’s page where you can subscribe.<br> * Subscribe on Stitcher: Please <a href="http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=54457&refid=stpr">click here</a> so you can catch all episodes.<br> <br> If you enjoyed the podcast, could you please take a second to share this with your friend or leave a <a href="If%20you%20enjoyed%20the%20podcast,%20could%20you%20please%20share%20this%20with%20your%20friend%20or%20leave%20a%20rating%20and%20review?">rating and review</a>? You’ll be getting the word out on the show and helping other couples build their marriage and net worth. <br> Three Dangerous Habits of Bad Communication<br> <br> Every marriage – healthy or not – will speed bumps and finances are typically a part of them.<br><br> How the two of you handle it can either help you build a stronger marriage and improve your finances or it can tear you apart.<br> Attack the Person, Not Addressing the Problem<br> There’s a fantastic post about <a href="http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/09/17/the-10-commandments-of-clean-communication/">communicating clearly and effectively</a> on the Art of Manliness. If you have 10 minutes today, you should definitely give it a read. McKay points out:<br> There are two ways to criticize someone – you can critique their character or their behavior.<br> In criticizing behavior, you’re calling out something specific and temporary – something the person can realistically change.<br> But in assailing someone’s very identity, you’re issuing a global label – a blanket condemnation of who they are at the core; they don’t just do bad stuff, they are a bad person.<br> When discussing sticking to a budget, it can come out as:<br> “We’re always broke because you’re reckless with money.”<br> The next time you’re talking about money, trying explain how their behavior makes you feel. You can also offer a solution.<br> “When you spend more than what we agreed to in the budget, I feel like you’re ignoring our plans. Do we need to sit down and revise our budget to be more realistic?”<br> Masking Our Message<br> We think we’re getting our point across clearly, but instead we pick a part and nag on certain things. We keep dredging up all their past mistakes. All of this talking is less about solving a problem and just manages to push couples apart.<br> <a href="http://simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation/">Dr. Corey Allan, a Marriage & Family Therapist, suggests focusing on our intentions</a>. What do you hope to accomplish with this chat?<br> Speak plainly and openly with your spouse. Be concise and focus on one maybe two concerns and then hear your partner out. Make it a conversation and not a long-winded (passive-aggressive) lecture.<br> Using Threats and Silent Treatments<br> The last toxic habit that can destroy your marriage is using the silent treatment or making threats to get your way.<br><br> Threats and silent treatments can cause resentment and that can slowly erode the trust you have with one another. You should ask yourself, what’s my intention with this? We may justify it by saying it will make the other person think twice before doing that.<br> It doesn’t work that way though. You do not control your spouses behavior. They do.<br> If things get too tense or you just aren’t making...
